Carpe DM: Grasp Diana Mae

Love inspires you to…

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I haven’t been blogging for the sole reason of being lazy. I have a million thoughts per second, but never muster enough will power to write it down or reference at a later time. I just came back from another romantic date. Now, I normally don’t discuss my personal life rather openly. I prefer keeping people guessing & being conservative with details. But, the last few months have been a life changing experience for me. I’ve grown so weary of everyone desperately finding love that “measures up to your standards.” You create a checklist of unfathomable credentials, then when you find someone half-way decent, you want change them. Or “rules” of dating society/upbringing for a certain amount of time before you can put “labels” or whatever bullshit you sick people are quick to judge on.

I don’t care for that crap. People think with their head too much — let it go — take the leap of faith and just go with your heart. Be irrational. Because the reality is, there is no logic or psychological reasoning when it comes down to love. 

I think labels are over-rated, and the “steps” to finding your significant other shouldn’t be based on the norms and standards. It loses the passion, and the very eruption of feelings that makes us feel alive. Despite of the heartaches I’ve endured, I won’t ever pass up the opportunity to feel alive, to feel loved & to really live outloud. To let the past steal my present would be torture. I read somewhere once that “if you clutch the past so tightly to your chest that it leaves your arms too full to embrace the future.” I’ve never had that problem. There’s too much in life to enjoy!

I know the circumstance I’m in may not be ideal (to you play-by-the-book romancers). A true recipe for a heartbreak. Yes, risk-taking is absolutely failure-prone, but we miss a 100% chance on opportunities we don’t take. I’ll take my gamble, because to win — you have to risk loss. Finding myself is my greatest adventure! Having someone enjoy the ride certainly adds the icing on the cake.

Have you ever trusted someone so much to let them grab you by the hand to  slow dance in the rain? Well, it’s absolutely breath-taking…

May you find not only love… but passion — & never stop searching, or settle.

Wow.

Wow by Brandy: Speaking to my heart.

No more sittin’ at home at night
Waiting for you to come here
No more will I cry for you
I found somebody new
No more late night calls
Don’t even bother at all
When I was there for you
You took me for granted

Now he loves me
The way that I wanted you to love me
He’s always thinking of me
He’s nothing like you at all
I don’t know why
I stayed with you for so long
I should have been gone
He’s nothing like you at all

That’s why I say WOW
Never felt a love so good
I look up and my world is brighter now
There’s no more rainy clouds
Since love’s here and
Now everyday I wear a smile
You came into my life and the clouds are gone
I only see the sun

He’s here and all my hurt is gone
Every night he is loving me
I feel like I’m inside a movie
But his love is so real to me
He’s here and I finally found someone
That I can call my own
Now that I’m not with you
You want me to come back

No more trouble since you came into my life
I’m so full of you
You’re the reason why I am so happy lately
You and me together is like my fantasy, clearly

Almost.

We almost had it all, together.

Then we lost it.

But I’m still standing strong, and I still have it all.

Cabo.

For Cinco de Mayo, I’m booking a trip to Cabo for next week! I can’t wait to be on the beach and literally do nothing. :)

Bulletproof.

“Been there, done that, messed around
I’m having fun don’t put me down,
I’ll never let you sweep me off my feet.”

This time.

One man’s garbage is another man’s treasure.

It’s interesting to see the continued cycle of this. Sometimes, it is too late to make things right again. When you’ve exhausted yourself in a relationship with too many “second chances,” you run out. Men, listen up and don’t allow a good thing to walk out of your life. Because once upon a time, you adored this chick —- yeah her, the one who’s back is towards you and walking the opposite direction. Perhaps into the arms of someone who can appreciate her worth fully.

Women are God’s delicate creatures. All throughout history, we can see the role women played behind every small and great events which shaped our present time. If you are a man who want to be a champion in the life of your woman, here’s the secret: grab every moment you can find to show genuine appreciation to the woman in your life. We’re not as difficult to understand as you make us out to be.

Treat the woman in your life with respect. It means putting her in high regard no matter who she is and where she came from. It means valuing her body as well as her spirit. It means not taking advantage of her vulnerabilities but helping her find strength in her own beauty and unique personality. If you show respect to any woman you meet this way, you will have a sure spot in her heart. She will respect you back.

Take the time to understand woman’s nature. This includes her physical and emotional makeup. True, a lot of men complained about how women can be very hard to understand and predict. Women can be very mellow one minute and erupt in rage the next moment. Men should not get discouraged with this for it’s just one small part of how a woman is. When you put more time understanding how a woman’s body functions and what is going on inside her mind, you will find that women are lovable creatures. You just need to know how to tame her and appreciate her uniqueness.

Show a woman you appreciate her by your love and gentleness. This is another way to show your appreciation to her. Showing love means being patient, being kind, listening to her with an open mind, supporting her dreams, seeking out her good, etc. You appreciate a woman in your life by being gentle to her and meeting her needs best way you can without demanding something in return.

The best way you can show your appreciation to the woman in your life is thru your words. This is an important step not just to improve your relationship with her but also to make her feel wonderful and happy. Let her feel how beautiful she is inside and out. Women need to hear how pretty she looks. She wants to feel great always and men’s words have big influence in it. Find good parts about her that you genuinely like and be creative in letting her know why you love them. Remember to let her know also how much she means to you. Use words to encourage and support her to do the things she love.

If you won’t, the next man will gladly step up to the plate and do the job for you. Even better. Trust.

“What’s a modern man, without a modern woman?”

The very elusive saying, “Behind a good man, there’s a successful woman.” YPs, don’t you know it! In this day and age, women have certainly made milestone leaps in achievement. We’ve emerged from playing the roles of the wife, mother, and family caretaker. It’s evident this movement enables us to juggle both a successful career while maintaining a supportive family. No one said it would easy, but the modern women has certainly been keeping up to par with the opposite sex. This goes for all aspects in life: career, sports, politics, & education. The Modern Woman no longer feels that their only potential could be within the household. During this Oscar season, it’s reminiscent to say the supportive & leading roles are interchangeable in relationships.

Personally, I don’t believe in glass ceilings, although some may still suggest this is a “man’s world.” Women today are without doubt a different breed than those of previous generations. Besides the necessity of having two incomes to support a household, women are more career-minded. There are more opportunities in the work place, and the competitive fire is adamant! It takes a very secure and confident man to be with this type of resolute woman. Let’s face it, as a child growing up any alpha-male would hate losing to a girl. Rather than having bitterness towards it, let’s use that defeat to challenge each other. Besides, I’m sure competition is intriguing to you men. By challenging one another equally, we’re able to build upon a healthy relationship. This would keep inspiration operative & refreshing.

Across the board, women have made great strides in the business world. Success to us means more than making our target goals and how much income we can generate within a fiscal year. It means being able to put our intensity into overdrive. We aren’t money-hungry; we are passion-driven. Globally, business has opened more doors for women and we use our natural instincts to guide us successfully. By being more sensitive to others’ needs, we’re readily able to meet the demands of consumers. In the 1950’s, it was very well defined of what the “Good Wife” requirements were. I accredit the modern women of today used that sense of catering and applying it to corporate America. Currently, women’s influence in society is outstanding, and not to be overlooked.

Take for instance even this blogsite, Youngprofessionals – this isn’t catered just for men. It’s for both sexes, all races, backgrounds & walks of life. It’s crucial for our generation to keep on embracing diversity. Who would have guessed that we would live to see the day a Black President rules the Free World- or in this case, a woman in the running for Presidency?! As a human race, we have definitely made substantial breakthroughs. As YP’s in the Modern world, let’s continue to embrace diversity & remain supportive of each other.

Cheers,

- dianamaef.